I have read a lot of books about living and dealing with infertility, but having a group discussion led by a psychologist was very different and really worthwhile. She touched on a lot of things that really hit home. IF is a very isolating issue to have to deal with. One of the many benefits of the support group as well as this meeting was knowing that what I am feeling and going through is 'normal' and that I am not crazy for feeling/saying/acting the way that I do.
Here are just some of the issues we discussed that are appropriate to share here:
- The stress level that comes with IF is huge. It is truly a crisis. It is similar to being diagnosed with a life ending disease.
- It is important to remember to continue to live life and be present in our marriage. Find an activity with your spouse that you can get lost in and not discuss infertility.
- It's OK to put a bubble around us to protect ourselves.
- Take ownership of your own happiness.
- IF is a grieving process.
- We have to let go of the fairy tale of how it should have been.
We talked a lot about marriage and the struggles our relationships are put through when dealing with IF. Ryan was out of town for this meeting, but I took some notes and we will try some of the communication techniques that she described. My hope is that by trying some of these things it will help ease some of the pain that IF brings to our marriage.
If anyone is looking for therapy in San Diego, Dr. Hall was very professional and very experienced in this area. Here is her info http://www.infertilitycounselingandsupport.com/san-diego-infertility-counseling.htm
Thanks for Reading,
HEATHER
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